Richie Kotzen - BLUE STAR
I didn’t want this to show up in the reblog notes for this picture but I also wanted to give credit to the artist because it’s really good art. But I see this picture on my dash all the time and it’s really upsetting because it’s promoting and glamorizing behavior that is really unhealthy. It needs an additional 8 panels where they try to talk but they don’t have anything to talk about in person and they have no chemistry and they can’t kiss without it feeling weird and then it takes less than 4 hours for them to decide they’re better off being just friends.
When you talk to someone online for years and meet them for the first time in person you’re basically setting yourself up for an extremely awkward but extremely well researched blind date. Almost everything that matters in a romantic relationship is not something you can gauge by an online relationship. Things like how a person holds themselves in conversation and how they smell and how tall they are and how easy it is to hang out on the couch with them and how a solid week of hanging out together would unfold are all things you can not know from talking to someone online for years and they make up like 60% of what a relationship even is.
Pretending a relationship is “all mental” and assuming that if you get along on chat you’ll get along in person is really juvenile and unfair to yourself. Even if you’re gay. Even if you’re a sexual minority. Even if you think there is no one in your home town you can date, and even if you’re right, it’s still not smart to put all your stock into someone over the internet.
I mean it makes sense if you’re young and in high school because it doesn’t matter as much as your friendships with class mates don’t matter. But please please please don’t, like, not date people in your real life because you think you’re dating someone online or god forbid move to their city without spending several weeks with them first.
If you’re in a place in your life where you think you need to be in an online relationship the healthiest option is to tough it out until you can change your situation to the point that real life relationships are available to you. But by letting yourself fall in love with someone online (which is SUPER EASY when you don’t have to deal with the very real barrier of “chemistry”) you’re setting yourself up for this weird thing where one of you has to make a big move to live with a stranger, which is always a bad choice, or for the thing to just fizzle out anyway.
Don’t do that. Move to another city. Go to a queer bar. Meet a nice real human being.
Also I’m not going to actually argue against anyone in this post because I guarantee if you’re getting mad about reading this you’re going to realize I’m right a few hours after your awkward airport hug because I’m speaking from both personal experience and the aggregate experience of every one of my friends who’s tried to do this.
It doesn’t work, man, the internet is a venus flytrap for your heart.
so you’re gonna say that people who are in long-distance relationships are in relationships that are inherently less credible than face-to-face relationships? even though i have an absurd amount of friends who exist and are completely happy in these relationships?
yeah. whatever. you’re a fucking scumbag.
remember that time bradofarrell said trans people weren’t human as a hilarious “joke” yeah lmao real advice guru right here
there is so much i can say to this but i cant even believe this much stupidity was spewed
lmfao all of my currrent relationships have started off as online!! i am married to someone i met online!! (almost 5 years happily now) and with one of my bfs (almost 5 years as well) wow!! and-
this is so stupid hahaha holy shit
bradofarrell, have you ever considered slitting your own throat? I feel this would be a productive thing for you to do, it’d greatly benefit the human race.
Sincerely, some one who has been in a long distance relationship for 2 years, and spent more than a month in the company of my other half.
Hahaha what a load of bullshit. Hi. I met my husband back when the internet was brand spanking new and we’ve been very happily married for a long time. In fact, our thirteenth anniversary is in less than a week! When we met he was living in Missouri and I was living in Canada. We were 1200 miles apart. When we met for the first time it was nothing but sheer joy and relief at finally being able to hug one another. By the end of that first weekend we were engaged. We have three beautiful children and we’re happy and we’re going to spend the rest of our lives together. We are inseparable.
How’s your love life, sir? I’d be very surprised if it’s even a fraction as fulfilling as the many people I know who’ve met through the internet.
I actually started feeling sick reading the first part but reading everyone’s responses to it was an empowering reminder that I know that I’m making the right decision by going to see Steve tomorrow. For almost two years I have spoken to him almost every single day, told him pretty much everything there is to know about myself, even the things I’ve never told anyone else, and I feel more comfortable with him than I do with even some of my family members. I’m sure it’ll be a little awkward at first when we meet, but that’s why we’re doing this, to become even closer to each other. Do you know how long I’ve wanted to be with him, to hold the person I love more than anyone in my arms, to just spend time with him away from a computer? I know my family doesn’t understand, but I’m not some teenager here, rushing off to somewhere far away with zero thought. I’ve been planning this trip for a long, long time. I’m ready to do this, for both of us.
If I’m wrong, I’m wrong. But I won’t know until I try.
I hope I can become God!! Why Am I live? Why?
Another one bites the dust
She’s a Killer Queen
Why so serious face? - Joker HA HA HA HA HA HA
King crimson!!
Watching the future
Why people dead?
Jo-Jo!!
“If you leave your game, stay safe, stay alert and whatever you do, don’t die. Because if you die outside your own game, you don’t regenerate. Ever. Game over.”- Sonic the Hedgehog
Since Bradley’s coming by on Wednesday and I won’t have much time for anything else this week, I figured I should finish one of my Gundam doodle pages.
It’s Demon Dame and the Zeek freak formerly known as Dastardly Destiny.
omg is Haman blushing
she wants dat Sha
Toshihiko Sahashi - BRICK BALLADES~HOUSTON ST.
“My name is Roger Smith. I perform a much-needed job here in this city of Amnesia.”
